double punishments

Why does it seem like the most effective forms of discipline are also the hardest on the parents? Today, the boys and I went to a nature program at a local park. We've been going every morning this week and learning about habitats, worms, butterflies, and bees. We listen to stories, sing songs, do crafts, explore the outside, and have yummy snacks. And for the most part, it has been a really good experience.
But today, Truett just couldn't pull it together. He was talking back, disobeying, and being naughty. We actually ended up leaving early because he wouldn't or couldn't change his behavior. He wasn't phased by leaving early and I knew that he needed to understand that his behavior wasn't okay. So I told him that he wouldn't be able to eat lunch with his Yaya. (Sam's sister) Truett adores his Yaya so I knew that this would be a good punishment for him. However, this also meant that I would be spending more time with Truett and I will be honest and say that, today, that felt like a punishment for me. I was supposed to have some free time, as much as you can possibly have with an eight-month old scooting around, and get a few things done around the house. Instead, I had to listen to Truett tell me that he was going to throw a shoe at me. I'm not sure who had the worse end of that deal when it was all said and done.

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